My Husband Cheated on Me

Posted on January 20, 2014 by lharoldsen

My Husband Cheated On Me

Husband Cheated

Did your husband cheat on you?

Did you catch him in the act? Was it with your best friend or someone you knew? Did you find out for yourself? Did someone else tell you about it? Were you expecting this? Did he just come right out and tell you about it himself? Did you ignore the signs? Do you want to make things work? Do you want a divorce? Are you hurt and angry? Has this made you feel worthless and self-conscious? Will you be able to trust again? Will anyone love you? Are you embarrassed that you are in this situation? Could you have done something to avoid this situation?

Don’t let your mind betray you too.

There is nothing you could have done to change this. You have to know that this is not your fault either.

Many in your situation let their minds take over now and tell them all sorts of lies… “If only I had been sexier.” “I should have been better in bed.” “If I was thinner this never would have happened.” “I wasn’t nice enough to him.” “I drove him to this.” “My husband cheated on me… I wasn’t good enough for him.”

-STOP RIGHT THERE!-

Your mind is a powerful tool, but not always in a good way.

Your husband made his own choices. Those choices are independent of you. You could not make him do anything, he always had his own choice.

Your worth is not affected because your husband didn’t appreciate it.

If I took a $100 bill and crumpled it up, would you still want it?

OF COURSE YOU WOULD!

But why? It’s all crumpled!

I’ll tell you why… it’s because it is still worth $100!

Well what if I took this $100 bill, threw it on the ground, walked all over it, and even stomped on it? Would you still want it?

Crumpled Dollar

OF COURSE YOU WOULD!

It is still worth $100! I know I know… it’s hard to believe and some may even try to deny it!

But what if I took a corner of this $100 bill and I ripped it off completely? Would you still want it?

OF COURSE YOU WOULD!

How could it POSSIBLY still be worth $100??

What if I ripped all of the corners off of this $100 bill, smashed it, crumpled it, screamed and yelled at it, told it that it was worthless to me, hit it, threw it in the dirt, and even traded it in for a newer $100 bill??

THIS $100 BILL DOES NOT LOSE ITS VALUE NO MATTER WHAT I DO TO IT!

Now I’m going to tell you something that might be completely new for you.

This example of the $100 bill is the same for you only you have INFINITITE worth!

You can never be more or less than infinite and were created from the divine to know that.

Yes, it’s true and you may not believe it now… but you eventually will realize this and it will completely change your world.

Even if your husband rips you apart, smashes you, “crumples” you, screams and yells at you, tells you that you are worthless to him, hits you, throws you in the dirt, and even trades you in for someone “newer”…. YOU WILL NEVER LOSE YOUR VALUE!

Even if he comes right out and TELLS you that you are of lesser value, He will NEVER be able to change your worth!

He can never change that you are a $100 bill and you are worth $100! No matter what he says or does to you, this is a fact that cannot be altered.

Looking at it this way, it almost seems silly that he would even TRY because everyone else can see that you are a $100 bill still and everybody else still wants you. Your value does not change no matter what he does. 

There is always hope

Lift your head up my dear…

My Husband Cheated on me but . . .

. . . There is Hope.


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